Word for Today by Bob Gass (TEACHING CHILDREN PATIENCE)
For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise.’ Hebrews 10:36 NKJV
Do these three things:
(1) Don’t be Mr or Mrs Quick-Fix-It. Your kids need to learn to respond the right way to difficult conditions. That means dealing with frustrations, not being rescued from them. Overprotecting produces a sense of inadequacy and powerlessness in them. By quick-fixing everything, you’ll rear children who cannot handle life. They’ll expect to be rescued from all trouble, and become overly dependent on others. The Bible says, ‘Problems and trials… help us develop endurance.’ (Romans 5:3 NLT) Allow your children to experience age-appropriate challenges, and they will thank you later for the strengths and coping skills they’ve developed.
(2) Prepare them to wait. When you know in advance that your child will have to wait (for instance, in a doctor’s office or an airport), help them prepare for it. ‘Make the most of every opportunity.’ (Ephesians 5:16 NLT) Have them pack items they enjoy. Because they chose the items, they’ll feel they invested in the process.
(3) Keep a positive attitude. If you constantly complain while waiting in traffic, or for someone who’s late, your children will do the same. Instead, try saying, ‘This delay gives us time to tell each other about our day.’ Or, ‘Even when we feel frustrated about waiting, God’s timing is always perfect!’ Teach them God’s perspective on patience: ‘Be patient, then, brothers and sisters, until the Lord's coming. See how the farmer waits for the land to yield its valuable crop, patiently waiting for the autumn and spring rains.’ (James 5:7 NIV)